When Mommy Bloggers Attack & Playground Rules That Should Apply to Grown Ups Too

Playground Rules

If you’re a blogger, or read many blogs you may have heard about a big scandal in the blogging world this weekend regarding a photo. Some folks were offended and some nasty blog posts have spun out of control. These articles are so mean and inaccurate (and some of them have already been deleted) that I’m not going to give them the dignity of publishing the links here, but they wrongly defamed and attacked a good man and his reputation.

Now blogging is a little bit like high school, except most of it is online. There are lots of cliques, lots of fights, and there’s always the mean girls who aren’t smart enough to get all the facts, but jealous enough to attack innocent people anyway and feel the need to trample anyone in their way. Those of us not part of the mean girls have been blown away and astonished at this weekend’s happenings.

As I’ve been pondering everything that happened, it’s occurred to me that things in the blogging world aren’t too much different than preschool. We have been teaching my little man the rules of the playground and how to play fair with the other kids recently and the world would be such a nicer place if some of these were rules for real life too.

So here are some of my suggested rules for the blogging “playground”……

  • Big kids don’t throw fits.
  • You don’t always get what you want.
  • Throwing a fit will not get you what you want.
  • Mind your manners.
  • Don’t be mean.
  • Don’t be a bully.
  • Don’t be naughty just to get attention.
  • Words hurt. Sometimes they hurt worse than hitting. Think about what you say.
  • Play nice.
  • Take turns.
  • If someone hurts you accidentally don’t hit back. They didn’t mean it and might not even know they did it. Just let it go or talk to them about it.
  • If someone hurts you intentionally, stand up  for yourself,but hurting back isn’t always the answer.
  • Don’t throw rocks if you don’t want people to throw them back.
  • Not everyone will invite you to play with the cool kids. That’s ok. There’s lots of other kids to play with. Just remember who your real friends are if you do get invited to play with the cool kids..
  • Stand up for your friends.

Unfortunately there’s not a playground monitor to monitor the blogging world. Hopefully the backlash of comments and e-mails have taught these girls a lesson or two about manners. If not, let’s hope karma gives them a big old time out. 


  1. So true! I wish more people would follow these basic rules!

  2. These are good points. I try to stay out of the mommy blogger drama.

  3. Janet W. says:

    I love your rules list! Isn’t it amazing how adults talk about kids being bullies to one another, but don’t see that their own actions are those of a bully as well?!

  4. Kudos to you, Kim! I, of course, heard about the nasty bullies who were insanely unfair and ridiculous about something that had NOT ONE THING to do with them.
    I have also heard of other “horror” drama blogging stories. It just breaks my heart how some people think they can hide behind their computer and hurt others. I really don’t think they would have the gall to say it to them in person. Such jealous cowards are these who hurt others…so pointlessly. :(

  5. Natasha M. says:

    Oh if only more people would follow these simple rules, would make the world a better place. I also heard of the “issue” and think it’s truly disgusting how in this day and age, where we’re trying to teach our children right from wrong, set good positive examples, that people can act like such bullies over something so trivial. My heart goes out to the man in the middle of all this, as it is his name and reputation being slandered over what appears to simply be jealousy. With this kind of mentality it’s easy to see why society has taken such a turn for the worse. I do hope karma catches up with those girls!!

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